A Family

God Loves Your Family

He has planned for it and has a purpose to do through it. This is based on the will of God and not the pedigree or achievements of our family’s history. It’s the grace of God and His mercy endures forever for us individually and our families.

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit, you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”

Malachi‬ ‭2‬:‭15‬

Whatever He does starts with a family. This is what we see with Adam and Eve and it’s the same today. He made a family before Establishing the church because He knew that everything He wanted to do would start with a family. It’s the generational plan of God that thinks ahead and has a plan for every family member alive right now and that is coming.

This is also why the devil hates families and attacks continually. The good news is that Jesus is our protector and when we commit our families to Him, He’s faithful to complete His purpose.

Knowing that God loves our families, gives us the focus to lead our families in His ways. Being a family who follows Jesus is the right path, the best path, and the purposed path. Notice that it’s His path, not ours, that brings what we need and what we want.

It’s from this understating that I’ve chosen to have the posture of stewardship versus ownership.

I don’t own my wife or kids, I’m a steward of them. They were His before He gave them to me, so I understand that I must give them back!!

I’ve heard it said, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion.”

When their hearts are open I can lead them, speak into them, correct them, and show them who Jesus is and they receive it.

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

Proverbs‬ ‭4‬:‭23‬

Being a steward of our loved ones means we’re servant leaders who empower them to be who God has called them to be. We don’t control them, we lead them.

Pastor Craig Groeschel says, “You can have growth or control, but you can’t have both.”

Stewardship mentality thinks of growth and leads to it individually and as a family.

Of course, I take ownership of my responsibilities as a husband and dad which honor God by doing this. But my posture is being a steward.

Because God loves my family, here are two ways to connect with them.

1st – Seek to know their unique gifts and talents.

This happens by intentionally being with our spouse and kids. When we do this we develop a bond with them that shows us the gifts and abilities they have.

We can’t parent every child the same and we can’t connect with everyone in our family the same either.

This is why it takes time individually to know them, forge a bond with them, and meet where they are.

This is what servant leaders do.

From this place, we can get a plan from God on how to help them excel in who they are made to be in Christ.

I encourage you today, to make a schedule that gives you one-on-one time with your immediate family. It’s needed and it’s an investment that offers generational and eternal returns!!

2nd – Connect the dots for them.

This means when we see their gifts and abilities, we connect them to people and places where these things are developed and are thriving.

For example, if they have a gift in music, connect to the worship team leaders so they can develop relationships and opportunities. If they have a business gift, it would be the same. Whatever is revealed, it’s our job to connect the dots so they see it in action. This helps them see themselves in that role and then they can run with it and develop these abilities.

We do this for our spouse too.

I encourage you to seek out connection points for your family so they can see their gifts and abilities in action.

We shouldn’t underestimate this as God uses it to help us and our family members to thrive.

So as we steward who God has blessed us with, we can see them thrive and prosper in it.

Jesus is with you and the best is yet to come!


Pastor David Norris

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