Make Time To Make It Count
Right now, our family’s schedule is full—how about yours?
Some nights, we have four kids heading in four different directions. These moments can be both exciting and exhausting. And while we’re celebrating milestones, it’s easy to feel drained.
Sumer and I are doing our best to stay present and enjoy this season because we know—it won’t last forever. The kids are growing up quickly, and this chapter will soon be behind us.
“The days are long, but the years are short.” That phrase hits home.
But in the midst of this pace, how do we—as a married couple—stay connected and refreshed?
This matters deeply, because when the marriage is strong, the family is strong. That bond with your spouse affects every part of life. And if it’s not prioritized, the connection fades.
The truth is, many couples struggle to consistently connect one-on-one—and it shows. The good news? You can change that.
Here’s my encouragement for every married couple (and future one too):
Make time to make it count.
That means being intentional about spending time together, just the two of you. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. What matters is the rhythm—regular moments that keep your relationship close.
God designed us to thrive in closeness:
“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one… they felt no shame.” – Genesis 2:24-25
But have you noticed this doesn’t just happen?
If we don’t plan for it—it won’t happen.
1. Start with Weekly Connection
This can be simple:
- Breakfast together at home
- Wake up early for coffee at the kitchen table
- Meet for lunch during a workday
Keep it easy and repeatable. The goal is connection, not perfection.
For us, Friday morning breakfast is our thing. No matter what’s going on, if we’re together, we’re having breakfast. It anchors us and gives life to our relationship.
I believe this weekly connection will do the same for you.
Talk to your spouse, look at your schedule, and make it happen. Prioritize your love—it’s worth it.
2. Plan Time Alone
Whether it’s a staycation or a quick hotel night away, intentional time alone matters.
Ask a trusted friend or family member to watch the kids. Trade babysitting with another couple if needed. It doesn’t have to cost a lot.
Even just one or two nights away can recharge your relationship. It creates space to reconnect—spirit, soul, and body.
This kind of time is just as important now as it was on your honeymoon. Make room for it.
3. Encourage Each Other Weekly
This might be the most challenging part—but also the most powerful.
We often take each other for granted. Encouraging words can feel awkward if it’s not a regular practice. But they are essential.
Don’t underestimate the power of looking your spouse in the eye and saying something kind and heartfelt. It doesn’t have to be long—just genuine.
Say what they mean to you. Call out one trait you admire. Mention one thing they do that blesses you. Switch it up each week.
And yes, say “I love you” daily. Hug. Hold hands. Make physical touch part of your rhythm, too.
“Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. – Proverbs 16:24
After reading this, I encourage you—text or call your spouse. Share one meaningful thing you love about them. Start small, and watch how God helps you take big steps forward together.
Make time to make it count.
Your marriage matters. You matter. Your legacy matters.
No matter the challenges, growing in love through Jesus is the adventure of a lifetime.
I believe your marriage can thrive. It has a purpose far greater than you may know.
Start today—and see what God can do.
– PD
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