The Importance of a Date

Are you in a relationship?

Whether you’re married, dating, engaged, or you want to be, the importance of a date is monumental for ongoing success in a relationship.

There’s something about making time and having time together that does great things for relationships. This speaks of our value for each other, and the time we’re investing in being connected.

Staying connected and growing together requires intentionality and a consistent time for a date.

In the infinite wisdom of God, he created a family before he created his church. The value he places on a man and a woman being successfully married is a big deal to him. Furthermore, he wants us to thrive through the ebbs and flow of life, in the love and bond that a husband and wife have.

This is the story of the first family formed.

“23. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24. That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”

Genesis‬ ‭2:23-25‬

Notice the flow of leaving and cleaving to each other and the blessing of being naked with no shame. This is a gift, and it’s from God. The passion of getting married, the joy of the honeymoon, and getting started together as a couple, is a great time to remember.

But so many couples lose this connection over time, and at some point drift away from each other. There are a plethora of reasons why this happens, and to stop this trend, we must be intentional.

One way of being intentional is having a consistent date.

That’s right. Making time, setting a time, and having time together, opens our hearts toward each other and helps us grow more in love.

I know a date doesn’t fix all the problems, nor is it a quick fix to the potentially closed hearts that exist. But I do believe it helps keep our hearts open toward each other, and it gives a chance for love to grow and for healing to occur.

Just think about the importance of a date, or a set time, in other areas of life.

A job interview. A staff meeting. A final exam. A yearly review. A guys or girls hangout with friends. A business opportunity. A flight for a trip, and so much more.

We operate our lives this way, and when a date or a set time is important to us, we make it happen.

What if we do this with our spouse? What if we practice this in our relationship now? What if we set aside time to have quality time with the one God gave us? What could come from it?

I believe love, conversations, growth, connection, and more would follow. It may take time, but we must give ourselves time together to grow in the first love we shared.

Let’s go a little further with this thought.

What if we set a date and time to be with God every day? What could happen?

Answered prayer. Being closer to God. Having peace. Having joy. Being thankful. Having clarity. An open heart to God. Saying yes to God. Growth. Healing. Purpose and so much more.

It’s amazing to me how we keep the date for things that aren’t the most important, and we don’t set a date for things that matter most!

Have you been there? I have.

But life is so much better when we have a date with God and our spouse on a consistent basis.

This doesn’t come naturally, which is why, we must be determined to live out the importance of a date.

So, do you have a consistent time with God? Are you dating your souse?

These two things may not change everything in a moment, but I promise they will give great moments right now!

It will open the door to moments that we all want and need.

I believe there is purpose for your life in Jesus. There’s purpose for your marriage beyond what you see, and God cares about your love connection with your spouse.

So I encourage you to go on a date with your spouse. Then do it again. Get a pattern, and don’t stop it for anything.

Set a time with God too. Show up for it because He’s going to show up too!

Happy dating, and the best is yet to come,

Pastor David Norris

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