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Top Ten Ways To Build A Strong Family

God loves family and He made family before His church. The importance of family is massive individually, socially, financially, morally, spiritually, and more. When families are strong, churches are healthier, neighborhoods are safer and cities are better.

God has a purpose for every family that impacts generations and eternity for His glory.

Look at God’s perspective on family.

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”

Malachi‬ ‭2‬:‭15‬

“But if you refuse to serve the Lord, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”

Joshua‬ ‭24‬:‭15‬

“The wicked die and disappear, but the family of the godly stands firm.”

Proverbs‬ ‭12‬:‭7‬

This is just a little insight into what God wants for your family. But having a strong family that loves God takes intentionally. It doesn’t just happen because forces are coming against our homes; Therefore, here are ten things we can do to build a strong family as built on Jesus!

1st – Pray together.

Praying together is powerful and God is in it. This takes a few minutes to come together and pray. If this is new for you, start simply and pray over the day or a general request. It may be brief but God is in it.

For those that are doing this, keep going and don’t let it slip away.

Sunday nights are a time that is set aside for my family to pray together. We do this at other times too, but Sunday night is our time together.

2nd – Have dinner together.

I’ve written on this before but it’s so important. Most families are not eating together and that means they’re not talking together either.

There’s something about a table, good food, and family that facilitates conversation. If this is a struggle on what to talk about, have a plan with a topic or let one of the kids share their interest. Let it be chill because the goal is to eat together and talk.

3rd – Have one one one time.

Having one-on-one time with our spouse and our kids is huge. This takes being intentional, but it’s needed and we must make time for it.

I’ve learned that some days not much happens, but then on other days, it’s amazing! This reflects that consistency gives long-term results.

So this requires a schedule to be consistent and steady. Soon the hearts will open and real talk will happen.

4th – Talk about money.

When we serve God, money serves us. It’s a tool and when we get money right, it ripples into so many other areas of our lives.

So, it’s good to discuss money consistently with our spouse and then teach it to our kids. This includes sharing why we tithe and give offerings to our church. Money literacy is huge for life success and God wants this part of our lives to be right and furthermore, He wants to be a part of it.

Let Him in!

5th – Have fun.

Families need to have fun. This can be simple things but the content is not the point, the main thing is that the family has fun.

This can be challenging as our kids get older but meeting them where they are goes a long way in connecting to their hearts and having fun.

Determine to have fun and let God in.

6th – Go on vacation.

This is big. Vacations are a great way to make memories, go somewhere, and change up the routine. These moments can last a lifetime and help build a strong family connection around moments and places.

When it comes to vacations, they don’t have to be extravagant because that is not the point. It’s about being together and making memories. Going somewhere new helps us change up the location, make new memories, and have fun.

So I encourage you, to go on vacation and have fun.

7th – Play games together.

There’s something great about playing games together with our family. Board games, card games, and more are great ways to build bridges, laugh a lot, be together, and not be on electronics.

I encourage you to explore what games work for your family and go for it. Sometimes old school is the new thing that is great for us.

8th – Make church a rhythm in your life.

Going to church is great for the family. It brings a spiritual community around you and gives the support we all need.

This also helps us be a part of something bigger than ourselves which helps us grow and more Godly.

When we make church a rhythm in our lives it fortifies our faith, feeds our faith, and grows our faith. All of this is huge in making our families strong.

I’ve found that my kid’s greatest friends are in church. The people that influence them the most are in church. Their support system is the strongest in the church. This is what your family can have too!

9th – Have a date night with your spouse.

When our marriages are healthy, our family is healthy. When our marriages are strong, our families will be strong. A husband and wife are the leaders in a family and how they go, impacts where the family goes.

So, having a date night is massive. But most couples struggle with this and I get it. Schedules, energy, time, money, capacity, and more. But while all these are true, we must make time for our spouse.

The dividends are huge and the peace that comes in the home from it is priceless. I encourage you to have a date night and stay alive and connected in your marriage.

10th – Protect your family.

This is vital for our homes. It’s physical, spiritual, relational, financial, and emotional. We must be a protector by being involved, engaged, and asking questions. We can’t be hands-off and think it’s going to work out well.

We must be hands-on, not by controlling others, but by leading others through relationships and connection. It’s our job to protect our families. We stand up and care enough to talk, correct, ask questions, and care.

We pay attention to what they’re doing on devices and we’re in tune with their friends. We care enough to ask. We care enough to confront. We care enough to be servant leaders and do what’s best for them and lead accordingly.

I encourage you to protect your family. Be bold, build relationships, reach out, and walk hand in hand.

These are ten things that build a strong family.

Which of these are doing and which of these do you need to start?

Please move forward and let God help move forward one step at a time!

Your family has a purpose from God and He will make all things work together for the good!


Pastor David Norris

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